Why Following Is Irrelevant – Also Known as Lessons From a Backass


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Over the past few months, too much energy has been wasted over who is following whom on Twitter.

Part of the problem is that this is a petty argument that makes me want to throw things at people’s heads, but more importantly, I just have to point out the fact that it is an irrelevant conversation.

Sure, follower counts make us feel good. Sure, we like it when someone internet famous follows us back, but the reality is that there is little correlation between someone following you and that person seeing anything you do.

And if I am even half right here, then I can’t figure out why we worry about this (and more to the point, why the hell am I even writing this…).

Well, since I’ve already broached the subject and am indulging this utterly insane topic, I might as well keep digging and offer a reason why…

Power, Productivity and Noise

Once you get over a few hundred followers it becomes impossible (or at least unproductive) to search for the signal in the noise. Most, if not all, power-users quickly end up creating a few lists before inevitably honing in on one or two that truly add value to their lives.

Considering many of these lists are private, you often won’t even know if someone is really paying any attention to you.

Confession time. A while back, I almost entirely stopped following people back on Twitter. I’ve never really mentioned it before now because 1) it seems petty to talk about and 2) it doesn’t friggin’ matter. Since I’ve decided to out myself as the asshole who probably isn’t going to follow you back, let me tell you why.

It isn’t because I think Twitter is unmanageable, it isn’t because of spam and it isn’t because I think I’m better than you. It is because I literally never look at my stream of followers. It’s too overwhelming and there is just too much crap. If we talk and you interest me, you’re probably on a list.

Sure this is my own damn fault for taking a back-asswards approach to building up a following at the very beginning, but it doesn’t make any sense to waste my time trying to start over by unfollowing everyone and beginning anew. What I am doing now is working fine, even if my follower count isn’t remotely reflective of my usage.

Lessons from a Backass

If you want to get a feeling for how someone is using Twitter, or any social network for that matter, look at what they are writing, what they are sharing and who they are responding to. It is the best indication you can get of what matters to them through these tools.

Follower count is one thing and one thing only: a vanity metric. Focus your energy on the crap that actually matters… Who do you really know? Who have these tools helped you get closer to? Who do you actually speak to online? Stop looking for followers and start making connections.

Focus your energy on hitting the reply button rather than the follow. Take a legitimate interest in what others are saying and add value where appropriate. Know why? Because you might get a reaction. And isn’t a reaction infinitely better than an obligatory follow back?

Well, I’m off to throw up in my mouth a bit and to write something far less depressing (and hopefully a little more useful). In the meantime, let the irrelevant and obligatory examination of this useless topic begin!


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About the author: Michael Schechter (4 Posts)

Michael Schechter is the Digital Marketing Director for Honora Pearls, a company specializing in freshwater pearl jewelry. He also writes about all things digital over at his blog, and knows his way around a fine single malt scotch.


72 comments
MSchechter
MSchechter

P.S. Everyone, sorry for the belated responses... My computer hates Livefyre for some reason...

MSchechter
MSchechter

P.S. Everyone, sorry for the belated responses... My computer hates Livefyre for some reason...

geegel
geegel

Michael, to paraphrase someone: "You're doing it wrong".

Twitter sucks as a promotion tool, true, and from that perspective the number of followers is indeed an useless metric. But Twitter is a great discovery and a listening tool.

If you'll look over my tweets you'll quickly see that I don't advertise anything and virtually all of them are replies (although God knows i could use some traffic to some websites). That's what reflects what I read and do not. Because although largely impractical I do try to drink from the firehose and the results are always interesting.

If you don't find anything remotely interesting in your general Twitter stream maybe it's time to follow new people.

Cheers,

George

MSchechter
MSchechter

@geegel To paraphrase someone else: "Anyone who says your doing it wrong is probably doing it wrong." Twitter may suck as a promotional tool for some, for others it drives traffic and action. It all depends on the way you do it. You choose the stream, I choose lists, as long as the value is there, the exact method can't be right or wrong. I do think you're misreading a bit... what I'm saying is that I did it wrong at first and rather than level the ground, I just redid it in a way that made sense.

geegel
geegel

Michael, to paraphrase someone: "You're doing it wrong". Twitter sucks as a promotion tool, true, and from that perspective the number of followers is indeed an useless metric. But Twitter is a great discovery and a listening tool. If you'll look over my tweets you'll quickly see that I don't advertise anything and virtually all of them are replies (although God knows i could use some traffic to some websites). That's what reflects what I read and do not. Because although largely impractical I do try to drink from the firehose and the results are always interesting. If you don't find anything remotely interesting in your general Twitter stream maybe it's time to follow new people. Cheers, George

MSchechter
MSchechter

@geegel To paraphrase someone else: "Anyone who says your doing it wrong is probably doing it wrong." Twitter may suck as a promotional tool for some, for others it drives traffic and action. It all depends on the way you do it. You choose the stream, I choose lists, as long as the value is there, the exact method can't be right or wrong. I do think you're misreading a bit... what I'm saying is that I did it wrong at first and rather than level the ground, I just redid it in a way that made sense.

GovLiquidation
GovLiquidation like.author.displayName 1 Like

I thought this was useful. I like to hear how and why people use Twitter. Plus you coined a new phrase - trademark "backass". That's golden.

MSchechter
MSchechter

@GovLiquidation Every now and again you have to toss a new word out into the English language :) Same here by the way, love seeing the various ways people use these toys and tools.

GovLiquidation
GovLiquidation

I thought this was useful. I like to hear how and why people use Twitter. Plus you coined a new phrase - trademark "backass". That's golden.

MSchechter
MSchechter

@GovLiquidation Every now and again you have to toss a new word out into the English language :) Same here by the way, love seeing the various ways people use these toys and tools.

AnneWeiskopf
AnneWeiskopf

I'd comment - but - need to make sure you are following me first...

MSchechter
MSchechter

@AnneWeiskopf Probably not... :) But you're on my list!

AnneWeiskopf
AnneWeiskopf

@MSchechter aw. Holiday list? Tahitian Pearl Earrings? you are the best!!

DoctorJones
DoctorJones

This is why I don't follow you, Shechter.

MSchechter
MSchechter

@DoctorJones Probably a wise decision...

belllindsay
belllindsay

Great post @MSchechter and something that drives me ape shit batty. Who cares who is paying attention to you? Or following you..? And most importantly, if they *unfollow* you!? I have seen people publicly call out others on Twitter for not engaging them or for unfollowing them. G'ah! I would rather poke both my eyeballs out with a dull stick. If your whole personal 'esteem' system is balanced on Social Media, then wow, are *you* ever gonna be crying in a corner soon. SM is a cold and heartless world at times. Just like real life. I don’t engage with a person based on their social standings – my social relationships have been built the human way – by getting to know someone (like YOU for example!), by reading tweets and watching content and shares etc., by gut checking on that person’s view of the world, sense of humour, etc., and by determining ultimately if we ‘click’. Do I get a little thrill if an Internet bighead follows me? Of course, that's human nature, we all want attention. But ultimately, I also want to know who I follow and who is following me. As best you can in this space. Great post, as always. Cheers!

MSchechter
MSchechter like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 2 Like

@belllindsay I really want to punch people who do that. Move on with your life or better yet, get one. I wont lie, I'm a little of both. I meet people like you and dig in and I also seek out people of interest and try to connect. The thing I don't do and don't get is trying to connect with people who clearly aren't interested. Way better ways to spend your time.

Howie Goldfarb
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@belllindsay@MSchechter Since Lindsay follows me I feel like a social media guru expert rockstar uber honcho. IN fact the last 4 clients I got saw her as my one follower and then said 'Name your price Alien'. I said I wanted a pearl inlaid swimming pool. Now I have four being dug in my backyard. This shit works!

belllindsay
belllindsay

Great post @MSchechter and something that drives me ape shit batty. Who cares who is paying attention to you? Or following you..? And most importantly, if they *unfollow* you!? I have seen people publicly call out others on Twitter for not engaging them or for unfollowing them. G'ah! I would rather poke both my eyeballs out with a dull stick. If your whole personal 'esteem' system is balanced on Social Media, then wow, are *you* ever gonna be crying in a corner soon. SM is a cold and heartless world at times. Just like real life. I don’t engage with a person based on their social standings – my social relationships have been built the human way – by getting to know someone (like YOU for example!), by reading tweets and watching content and shares etc., by gut checking on that person’s view of the world, sense of humour, etc., and by determining ultimately if we ‘click’. Do I get a little thrill if an Internet bighead follows me? Of course, that's human nature, we all want attention. But ultimately, I also want to know who I follow and who is following me. As best you can in this space. Great post, as always. Cheers!

MSchechter
MSchechter

@belllindsay I really want to punch people who do that. Move on with your life or better yet, get one. I wont lie, I'm a little of both. I meet people like you and dig in and I also seek out people of interest and try to connect. The thing I don't do and don't get is trying to connect with people who clearly aren't interested. Way better ways to spend your time.

HowieSPM
HowieSPM

@belllindsay@MSchechter Since Lindsay follows me I feel like a social media guru expert rockstar uber honcho. IN fact the last 4 clients I got saw her as my one follower and then said 'Name your price Alien'. I said I wanted a pearl inlaid swimming pool. Now I have four being dug in my backyard. This shit works!

MSchechter
MSchechter

@HowieSPM@belllindsay Good to have people that get you that insane price of yours. Amen to pearl inlaid pools! Where the sales lion when you need him.

belllindsay
belllindsay

@HowieSPM@MSchechter You forgot "Unicorn". :) P.S. Can't Schechter hook you up with pearl stuff.?

MSchechter
MSchechter

@belllindsay@HowieSPM Mmmm, Unicorn! As for the pearl stuff, I've got a guy...

AmyMccTobin
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PS: The fact that you used the word 'whom' in that first sentence made my heart smile.

MSchechter
MSchechter

@AmyMccTobin The joys of having an 8th grade English teacher for a wife. She makes my chimp grammar sound far smarter!

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

@MSchechter Well if she doesn't already own Eats, Shoots, and Leaves, buy it for her for Christmas. Only grammar freaks think it's comedic.

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

PS: The fact that you used the word 'whom' in that first sentence made my heart smile.

MSchechter
MSchechter

@AmyMccTobin The joys of having an 8th grade English teacher for a wife. She makes my chimp grammar sound far smarter!

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

@MSchechter Well if she doesn't already own Eats, Shoots, and Leaves, buy it for her for Christmas. Only grammar freaks think it's comedic.

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 2 Like

I never pictured you as violent @MSchechter :)

My rule is to only follow back people that a) I Engage with, b) provide useful information often, c) make me laugh. I might be rude, but I don't always have TIME to look at who follows me.I'm actually writing a post right now called You're Not Chris Brogan.... it's on a subject manner I have to rant about every so many months.... Write to your audience, not for popularity.

Good post. Hope you're feeling better.

MSchechter
MSchechter like.author.displayName 1 Like

@AmyMccTobin Oh, extremely and loud... I'm very loud. Amusingly enough, I think all of us have written a post called You're Not Chris Brogan, I'm Not Chris Brogan, Their No Chris Brogan, my dog isn't Chris Brogan... it's a right of passage :) I think the real secret is right to your audience and you'll become popular, write to the one you think you need and you wont...

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

@MSchechter I know... I periodically have to write one of those posts to remind me that, as much as I love witty exchanges with "Youse Guys" (@DannyBrown , @GiniDietrich @MackCollier @DanielAgee ), you're not the people that matter the most to my business life. :) Maybe to my Business Inspiration, but not to my wallet. I need to write for the people who fill That.

Howie Goldfarb
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@AmyMccTobin@MSchechter the show the Soprano's used Michael as their inspiration. He still won't follow me on the Twitter even though I have parked in front of his house Tweeting at him the last 5 months.

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